What I really could have used at the time though, was a book that perhaps had this title, “How To Homeschool Public or Private School Kids” and would be filled with the following information:
1. How to deal with major attitudes when your children learn that they cannot hide amongst 30 other students, therefore they are forced to complete their work or they will be instantly found out.
2. How to staple your child’s hind parts to the seat because they get up every ten minutes and they are not afraid of you like they were with their institutional teacher.
3. How to motivate your pre-teens and teens to get up, get dressed with all of the hygiene that is involved, and get to the school table on time.
4. How to re-program their minds after years of institutional learning, so that they realize that learning can actually be fun.
5. How to make them understand that ‘socialization’ is a word that is mostly only applied to homeschool students by anti-homeschool public school advocates, and it does not mean that mom has to find fifty ways each week to get them together with friends or they will be social retarded when they graduate.
6. How to teach kids who think you are not as smart as their previous teachers, and constantly tell you that they “learned that last year”.
7. How to council your children on the fact that even though they are “doing much better than the kids at school who do drugs or smoke or are having premarital sex” that they still have to be obedient to Christ no matter the fact that they feel they should be able to be ‘typical teenagers’.
8. How to un-do years of ‘worldly exposure’ so that you can be firm with your kids when you tell them that there will be no more television, music, or media that does not honor God.
9. How to convince your husband that the kids are actually making progress even though they have only completed two subjects in their entirety the first year of homeschooling, and that most of your energy was focused on fixing all of the social, mental and character problems that they learned while attending public or private school.
10. How to discipline children who feel that you have already taken everything away; their social life, their TV shows, their mainstream music, their Facebook, and their IPod Apps.I betcha there is not a book about these subjects within the homeschool community…..but there should be. My daughter, who is 15, gets so discouraged with her homeschool friends, because she feels like a homeschool outcast. Most of the kids that she meets have been homeschooled from the beginning, and do not have the issues and problems that she has. It makes me even sadder and more ashamed knowing that because I chose to go back to work when the kids were small instead of continuing to homeschool them, I exposed them to a taste of worldly things that will not go away without serious discipline and sacrifice on their part. I know that there are many homeschool families that did not start homeschooling right from the beginning. They probably feel as we do, that they lack the peaceful harmony that they see in families who have always homeschooled. Yet, what’s done is done and the past cannot be changed. We must press on, do the best we can to help our kids see that we are serious about homeschooling for Jesus Christ, and to never give up hope that we too will share a unity with our children that is typical of the homeschool family. Afterall, most of us heard the call to Take Back Our Kids from the world, homeschool them in His name, and lead them to a life that is dedicated to being a Servant of Christ…….if we believe that God made that call to us, then these obstacles that we face in Homeschooling in the Middle are only temporary, and our homeschool’s will be blessed by our Heavenly Father.